Top 6 Lessons from a Wedding Planner

As a wedding planner I have seen the good, the bad, the ugly.  The world of weddings is one that knows no limits to emotional up and down rollercoaster rides.  So, I am taking this opportunity to share some important lessons for brides- especially those who will not have a wedding planner or coordinator.  

1.    Hire Wedding Industry Professionals

I know that it may sound very appealing to have a family friend who “does photography” or “plays good music” fulfill these duties at your wedding but take it from me- this is usually a plan for disaster. There are few worse feelings than excitedly opening your wedding photo gallery and having to pick up your jaw from utter disappointment.

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2.    Always have a back up plan.

I learned this one early on. Whether it’s needed because of unpredictable weather or unruly guests- back up plans are a must. It’s good to think of the -what if’s and have a solution worked out – even if it’s just in your head. This will make trouble-shooting so much easier.

3.    Purchase a little extra of everything.

This goes for flowers, food, paper goods etc. Giving yourself a little wiggle room for errors or loss will save you a headache in the long run. This is especially true for DIY brides.

4.    Confirm vendors, and then re-confirm.

I expect all vendors in this business to offer exceptional service and honor their word but confirming is still a MUST. Make sure to confirm arrival times, set up times and services prior to the wedding.  Ensuring everyone is on the same page with the timeline will help you enjoy your day.

5.    Create a day of timeline

This is the key to a seamless event. For some this will be super comprehensive packed with details for every person or high-level with only the important items.  Either way, having a timeline will help everyone to run on time.  An added bonus is a timeline will allow each bride to “brain dump” while creating it which in turn helps reduce anxiety and stress levels leading up to the big day.

6.    Learn to let go- enjoy your day.

You can plan every single detail down to the last song the DJ will spin, yet some things are bound to go wrong.  The sooner you embrace this the better you can enjoy that momentous day.  

My name is Michelle Perez and I cry at weddings.

Michelle Perez Events | Wedding Planner, Event Coordinator & Florist

Even with the nearly 50 weddings under my belt, I cannot help it. Watching a father give his little girl away or the new couple sharing their first dance tugs at all my heartstrings.  Let’s not even talk about the parent dances. 

I am unashamed to carry tissues for myself at every wedding I work.

I have tried every trick to avoid the tears or mask them but inevitably one of the guests will always catch me and we’ll share our own special moment.  They will sympathize and I will giggle while wiping my face.  This used to be an embarrassing moment but I have learned that this is one of the best parts about me as a person.  At this point, my clients are my friends.  And as far as I am concerned I am a part of their story- afterwards their thank you notes confirm that I’m right.

The truth is I have always been “the sensitive one”.  The negative connotation of this tortured me all my life.  I never knew how to control those darn tears and no matter how much others tried to “toughen me up” I remained unchanged.  

The funny thing is that the one thing I disliked most about myself growing up is one of the things I love the most about myself now as an adult.  The fact that others' special moments are felt on such a deep level with me is a beautiful thing. Being "sensitive" allows me to connect to people in more meaningful ways because I can empathize and whole-heartedly place myself in their shoes.  

I hope I never lose that. I hope you, dear reader, never hope to get rid of or hide the very parts of you that make YOU.