As a wedding planner I have seen the good, the bad, the ugly. The world of weddings is one that knows no limits to emotional up and down rollercoaster rides. So, I am taking this opportunity to share some important lessons for brides- especially those who will not have a wedding planner or coordinator.
1. Hire Wedding Industry Professionals
I know that it may sound very appealing to have a family friend who “does photography” or “plays good music” fulfill these duties at your wedding but take it from me- this is usually a plan for disaster. There are few worse feelings than excitedly opening your wedding photo gallery and having to pick up your jaw from utter disappointment.
2. Always have a back up plan.
I learned this one early on. Whether it’s needed because of unpredictable weather or unruly guests- back up plans are a must. It’s good to think of the -what if’s and have a solution worked out – even if it’s just in your head. This will make trouble-shooting so much easier.
3. Purchase a little extra of everything.
This goes for flowers, food, paper goods etc. Giving yourself a little wiggle room for errors or loss will save you a headache in the long run. This is especially true for DIY brides.
4. Confirm vendors, and then re-confirm.
I expect all vendors in this business to offer exceptional service and honor their word but confirming is still a MUST. Make sure to confirm arrival times, set up times and services prior to the wedding. Ensuring everyone is on the same page with the timeline will help you enjoy your day.
5. Create a day of timeline
This is the key to a seamless event. For some this will be super comprehensive packed with details for every person or high-level with only the important items. Either way, having a timeline will help everyone to run on time. An added bonus is a timeline will allow each bride to “brain dump” while creating it which in turn helps reduce anxiety and stress levels leading up to the big day.
6. Learn to let go- enjoy your day.
You can plan every single detail down to the last song the DJ will spin, yet some things are bound to go wrong. The sooner you embrace this the better you can enjoy that momentous day.